Nourishing weekends

Jan 04, 2009 in Family-maker

Ever since becoming a stay-at-home housewife, I've grown to enjoy the days staying at home, worrying about the bills and the excess dust on the floors. I've embraced this awesome TV series called The Gem of Life, that glamorizes the PR professional's lifestyle (Ada Choi's PR Manager role in particular was close to what I used to do at TNB, all the travelling to exotic islands and tying up lose connections with media representatives). I've learned to enjoy playing Lego Indiana Jones: The Original Adventures on the Xbox 360, and I've become a familiar face at the late morning Yoga sessions at my gym.

I can't believe I'm saying this, but hello to the tai-tai life, and boy it can be fun.

Except of course I don't blog so much anymore (actually I hardly surf the net) and I spend my 6 pms waiting for Eric to call me and tell me 'Ok you can start cooking now I'm on the way home'. So weekends are extra exciting because I get to look forward to having hubby to myself the ENTIRE 48 hours of Saturday and Sunday. We wake up later, and hubby cooks breakfast for me, and then we'll head out to Tesco or Giant to get our weekly groceries, nourish ourselves with basketfuls of meat and vegetables and head back to the house (yes our very own house) for a mean game of Soul Calibur.

I love my nourishing weekends and this Sunday's coming to an end again.


Being mature is giving yourself space.

Jan 02, 2009 in Life-logger

I know that we don't know each other for that long for me to say that I know you thoroughly, and I know that I don't qualify to boast that I know what you're going through, but seeing you choosing a path of self-destruction doesn't make me feel good, it doesn't make any one of us feel amazing either.

I get it. It's important that you look good, feel good all the time. That you're right, that you're the mature one, the one who's been through the tough times, the one who knows life thoroughly, more than most of us because you've been through more salty days than all of us. But running away, denying help, denying the form it comes in, it doesn't work. It doesn't matter that we don't talk kindly to you anymore… it cannot matter because we cannot pretend to be nice and chummy to you - being nice and chummy didn't seem to work, and so we had to shift.

I don't want to say I'm sorry because I'm harsh with my words, that my slanted gazes may cause you discomfort - I don't know if they cause you pain anyway because you seem to not care. But I know this, if all you're wanting is someone who cheers you on as you keep on puffing into your 6th daily pack of cigarettes, if you rejoice in hanging out with people who cheer on for you as you bitch about how evil the administration is and continue to litter around public places incessantly, and if you think that you working for a non-government organization gives you the right to be righteous about everything you say and do… then you can go ahead to choose that path and ignore everyone who's telling you to quit damaging your life.

My man, he told you this, 'Everyone cares for you.'

I don't know what you need to appreciate 'care'. Or whether you want  'care' in a certain form only. But if you're going to slap all of us who truly want to see you live better, then give yourself that space to make mistakes. It starts with living through the pain, not  running away.

I hate it that you shut us out like this.


Happy New Year from the Yeows

Jan 01, 2009 in General

Happy New Year 2009

We're somewhere in Setapak enjoying the New Year fireworks display along with thirty young varsity kids. The Moet & Chandon bottle comes courtesy of our friend Daniel and let me tell you, PRICE DOES MATTER when it comes to taste!

Happy New Year folks, and I got this cool sms from someone, sharing it with you -

They call it adversity, but let's call it opportunity
2009 is going to be tough, but let's face it with a laugh
Celebrate this dark year, but let us face it without fear!

Have a joyous year ahead, no matter what!


And so I get it, now.

Dec 30, 2008 in God-worshipper

Close friends would know that I sincerely abhor fundamentalism, especially when it comes in a very religious form. When God, ideally conceptualized as divine becomes captive in man-made cages of what morality, God-led should be, the whole premise automatically spells disaster, and the incidents throughout history has taught us well.

Fundamentalism can prove to be both  internally and externally  disastrous. Some religions that focus more on fine-tuning the inner being, albeit colourfully united by a pantheon of various 'gods', have been proven to wreck havoc on a believer's mind and soul, leading to strange rituals that sometimes involve insane consensual rape, and consensual violence. Other religions, the ones that focus on monotheistic ideals, in particular, have proven to own believers who in their fundamental zeal, have unleashed century-long wars, or in the recent decades, kamikaze bombers who decide upon the way of the sword.

I like to believe that every man wants good peace and harmony for this world, but I find it strange that so many decide that peace and harmony can only be thrown down by an invisible higher being when He/They is/are pleased by what we humans as minions have done. So be it killing off the unbelievers, or burning paper amulets, grinding the ashes into powder and ingesting them with holy water, or banning yoga-taichi-qigong, them exercises with paganistic origins, these calls to become more fundamental have intentions that are noble. Each believer wants to please his own God, with the sincere belief that God is angered by things that are displeasing. We all get it, if God is happy, then He will grant us peace, then we will be a peaceful nation of peoples, and then the world will be glad and good.

Alas, its been a vicious cycle of war after war, disaster after disaster, ever since our beliefs have been split into the continents they originate from. Oh woe upon the Arabs who are automatically considered Muslims, believers in The Way called Islam that has now become a faith largely associated with fanatical suicide bombers and terrorists. Pity those who live in the US's bible belt, so 'fundamentally' sound their beliefs in tongues and spirit-filling, that that belt also happens to house the vicious National Vanguard. Closer to home, haven't we considered the Chinese's versions of idolatorous buddhist and taoism to be one that priotises material gains only? Alas, or alas, the more the fundamentals work and more determined they demonstrate their intentions to 'right' things, the worse things get.

I find it heart breaking that this Christmas season sees the Palestinian bombings, that the current Israelite administration does not see any wrongdoing in their motivations. The oldest war in the world has yet to end, and what are Christians doing?

Sadly I got a random mail from someone in this local church circle, reminding us Malaysian Christians that yoga is unsafe and not for Christians to practise. Another random mail from another Christian person (and I dunno who thisperson is honestly), was meant to remind recipients that true believers of Christ must not resist spirit filled tongues, and must not be baptised by sprinkling.

Here I am frustrated, angry, and upset. For God's sake, is that the point of being Christians? Reminding your friends to doing safe things only? Casting aside 'weird' activities like tai chi, taekwondo, or qigong just because they are associated with those scary religions like hindusim and buddhism that has its believers prostrating to stone sculptures? Reminding us that there is a difference between Christians who speak in tongues and those who don't? Splitting hairs and asking us to not consider our friends who have been sprinkled as a baby as 'Christians' because it's not in the bible? We have countries being bombed, people and children dying, bodies mutilated to the point of unrecognizable, and this season, you send stupid mails like 'those who go to yoga classes will lose their places in heaven because God will be angry?'

I think God will be more angry that Christians are not priotising the things that matter this Christmas. How many of us will be willing to look towards what matters?

I had to write this sombre note to end the year.


Ten things I want this Christmas

Dec 16, 2008 in Family-maker

I was at my husband's company x'mas party yesterday when one of his colleagues asked me, 'Eh so you don't blog so much anymore right?'

Six years since the first time I clicked published on a primitive version of the blogspot CMS, I'm still flabbergasted to discover that people still won't let me go.

I don't like being recognized for the blog anymore. It takes a long long time to get rid of the stigma that comes with this whole social media brat thing, and I didn't exactly behaved very nicely online (obscene parodies of the bedtime stories and all that foul-mouthed swearing on the blog). Its hard to grow up, and its harder to grow OUT of this damn phenomenon that's quickly becoming old news.

Today I'm declaring a list of ten things I really want this Christmas, which is a little less than 9 days away:

  1. Not so many discoveries of 'strangers-I-know' who read minishorts.net
  2. A very good salary package from the company that's come a-knocking. A fantastic offer letter would be a most ideal Christmas gift
  3. A basic microwave oven without the grilling functions
  4. The Karcher RC3000 RoboCleaner
  5. The iRobot SCOOBA
  6. Sun outside my balcony for once, or else, an awesome clothes dryer that won't spoil the fabric
  7. A Kenwood cakemixer! I wanna bake seriously and I don't want to use a handmixer anymore (Kenwood mixers can make me feel like a pro)
  8. A book case to store all our books.
  9. A classy shoe cabinet (we can't seem to find any yet, and Eric hates the ones they sell at Ikea).
  10. Actually,  a househelp who can help me clean the house would be really nice…

Marriage changes people and their priorities. A year ago I would have listed a whole set of other stuff including branded bags, and the latest perfumes. Alas, oh alas!


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